The Wealth Container
Emily here!
If you threw a dart at the internet you’d probably land on some form of pop culture therapy talk.
Wellness and wokeness has a way of watering down deep concepts into cute carousels and catchy reels and it seems like everyone is talking about the nervous system.
Now, don't get me wrong. The fact that there is incessant chatter about something that literally makes us human is exciting to someone who has dedicated her life to studying it in real time. AND, there’s also a lot of bullshit out there.
Our capacities have never been so stretched. And while that flexibility is absolutely liberating, exciting, and necessary preparation for growth, it can also be overwhelming as fuck without any structure or context. In the EROS Collective, we believe what we are building not only requires a strong foundation, but that the process of creating, serving, and providing transformation to our clients in the worlds we are developing deserve to come from over flow, turn-on, and audacious resonance ringing with unshakeable alignment.
Sounds juicy right?!
But how TF do we get there? In a post AI world, anything is possible. But in the EROS collective, we also deeply believe that the future of business is human and that embodied abundance is about evoking the richness of self.
Enter the wealth container.
We all have big, hairy goals, and we can probably even feel the gap between where we are at now and where we want to be. That might be how you found yourself here. If that's true, and you are someone who WANTS something for themselves right now, I am here to celebrate you. That, my friend, is desire coming online! And that is a beautiful place to start! Desire opens up the gates of intimacy, and getting intimate with your wealth container in my opinion is the newest tech you should be heavily investing in. Like, put a ring on that shit.
But desire is only a small percentage of what it takes to get you where you wanna go or be satisfied with where you are at.
So if you have commitment problems, buckle up sis, your wealth container is in it for the long haul.
BUTTTTT guess what? It gets to be fun for you. And it gets to be easy for you. And that is EXACTLY what we do here.
What is a Wealth Container?
“Traditionally” and what I have found in my researched of how other people are talking about this (people like Jamie Sea with the original concept by Ken Honda), the wealth container is woven together by two things:
The Subconscious and The Nervous System.
Let’s talk about them.
The subconscious is the part of the mind that operates below the level of active, focal awareness. It stores memories, habits, and automatic skills, influencing thoughts and behaviors without requiring deliberate attention. Good old Merriam Webster reminds us the subconscious is “the mental activities just below the threshold of consciousness.” Consciousness being the subjective, first-person awareness of your own mind, thoughts, feelings, sensations, and the world around you
The body has this, too.
And here’s the thing about the subconscious… it lovessss to boss the nervous system around.
The nervous system can be explained through the trauma responses fight, flight, freeze and newer research on fawn. In bodies of work like my own The Embodied Way ®, A Sensualists Guide to Liberation and Leadership, we do not view these trauma responses as broken parts of your personality but rather brilliant, ancient survival architecture. Meaning the nervous system is the body's literal way of staying safe when there is a perceived threat, whether that threat be an actual lion chasing after you or your offers feeling like they aren't selling. Bridging the scientific with the spiritual allows us to stop trying to "fix" ourselves and start offering our bodies the grace they deserve through language we were never taught; a decoding of sorts. This is the part of the wealth container that demands we become proficient in a new dialect. If French is the language of love and romance, peace and understanding is the language of the nervous system.
Bringing the subconscious and the nervous system into business alone is paradigm shifting and I am fucking here for it.
But I also like to push back (well push into, really) what I feel is absent in a lot of these more holistic conversations. We’re doing a pretty good job of expanding our consciousness around topics that historically have been kinda square, masculinized, and linear, but what I have noticed is that there is still always something we shy away from, especially when we talk from a somatic perspective. And this one thing allows “doing business as usual” to go from “sure, no problem, I can do that for you” and alchemizes it into “my pleasure.”
The Sensual Body.
In the EROS collective, we don't just reserve a chair for the thing that allows us to go from just doing the damn thing to being LIT UP by doing the damn thing, we make her the head of the table.
The missing piece that EROS lore fulfills.
I think it is really important to note that the nervous system was never meant to be “calm”. It's purpose is to express, typically, what the subconscious has repressed. And somewhere in the last few years, “regulation” has been fed to us as sitting on a meditation cushion for hours and clean girl aesthetics in matching Lulu Lemon. Not only is that unrealistic for most of us, it may not be super valuable to our current society as we know it.
Both Crimson and I honor sensuality as fertile ground from true transformation, and we believe that the thread of arousal is here to guide us beyond thought. So much so that we both have built our own trademarked modalities—Esoeroticism ™ for Crimson and The Embodied Way ® for me—each have created studios from lived experience and cultivated brand worlds around embodiment, that lead people into juicer lives. So lucky for you, in the EROS collective and beyond, we acknowledge that The Wealth Container is not just made of the 2 original components we have already talked about, (remember who's at the head of the table!?) but THREE!
The subconscious, the nervous system AND the sensual body.
Quite simply put, inviting sensuality to the party means engaging with the senses: sight, taste, touch, sound, smell, and I also categorize ether as a sense ,too. It asks us to contemplate pleasure and our relationship to it; because the sensual body wants to be inhabited, not researched. Moved. Not journaled about. And experienced, not just theorized.
Often we confuse sexuality with sensuality. What I want to remember is sensuality is where we go with ourselves, where sexuality asks where we can go with others. And in an increasingly numbed out society…
Sensuality is the rebellious opposition to dissociation.
In a world that profits from women being cut off from their bodies, fragmented from their wisdom, and pitted against one another, the sensual body interrupts the revolving door of extorted power, and instead brings it lovingly and joyously back into our peripherals, our fingertips, our wombs and our spirits.
I have a saying I would like to share with you…
Embodiment is the art of living. Sensuality is the pleasure of being there.
And lets be honest, we spend a fuck load of time on and in our businesses. Why wouldn't we want to fully enjoy them and ourselves along the way?
How to start the conversation with your wealth container.
Three easy ways to start engaging with your wealth container and building language and capacity for growth and expansion, each offer tending to the three parts of this container.
The Subconscious can be illuminated by exploring shadow work. Here’s the kicker. Business ownership will be a crash course at looking into your own shit. Everytime someone says “no” and every time someone says “yes” there are secret stories buried in the depths. Shadow work allows you to get curious here, instead of pushing through or even punishing yourself for what you haven't figured out yet or what has yet to be revealed.
The Nervous System is a fickle beast, but omg I just love her. Pro tip? Clean your space. Clean your car. Clean your IG feed. Clean your shit up, and see how much energetic and physical capacity you open up for your success. That’s a gentle place to start.
The Sensual Body–myyy girl. Non linear (or unstructured) movement is a secret weapon in hard times and good times throughout your life; your creative expression and the life of your business will thank you! I freaking promise—playful, intuitive, slow and erotic dance is going to tell you a lot more about how you engage with pleasure and joy then a therapist ever could. If you're not dancing through life, you are truly missing out.
The Creatrix in all of us
I want to say this to my fellow creatives, artists, mystics, and healers. It is possible to be deeply embodied in your craft and also see the financial flow and stability you have only ever dreamed of. The creatrix in all us has been doing this for centuries, and she lives in you, all day, everyday. Shacking up with your wealth container is a tool no one; not AI, not the other woman “doing the same thing as you” and not even past versions of yourself can fuck with.
Imagine this:
You see a house. And it's beautiful. You love it.
Now imagine that house being built by one single person with one single hammer and one single saw. Up until this point you may have been running your business in this way. And it probably worked and got you somewhere… but you also don’t ever want to build that shit with one tool ever again.
Your wealth container, the EROS way, is coming in as the full functioning operations dream team. One that's gonna check you on your bullshit, open up capacity for joy in a way you couldn't even conceive and plant your shadow as seeds for wild success through the depths of who you are, not in spite of it.